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One of the easiest things to be deceived by in this era is thinking that choosing the right major equals choosing the right life path. The truth is: your major is basically useless, college is depreciating, and stable paths are disappearing. If you're still stuck on "what to study for stability," you're essentially using an industrial-age map to find the future, and you'll definitely get lost. What truly determines whether you can live well has never been what you studied, but whether you have these few things: the ability to keep learning, the ability to solve real problems, the courage to try and change, and a resilient body and mindset. Without these, no matter how good your major is, you're just switching to a more respectable assembly line; with these, you can survive doing anything, even thrive.

Practice is not about becoming a god, but about truly seeing oneself, seeing one's own ignorance, arrogance, and attachments. But it doesn't stop at acknowledgment; after seeing, one must gradually adjust, correct, and grow. Calm the mind and slowly improve oneself. ​​​

There is nothing in the world that reflects a person's overall ability more truthfully than making money. It tests your IQ, emotional intelligence, courage, thinking, judgment, and even your fortune. Therefore, you must develop your ability to make money. Because only when you achieve financial freedom can you have freedom of choice and ultimately attain independence and freedom of character. ​​​

Trivia: Replacing your iPhone every year costs the same as replacing it every three years. ​​​

Habits of experts: Do not pity anyone, Do not get close friends with anyone, Do not trust anyone, Do not lend money to anyone, Do not complain to anyone, Do not get close to married people of the opposite sex

Sincerely advise everyone, don't get the priorities of life reversed. In the order of life, health always comes first. Getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying active—these three things are your foundation. If you trade your life for money every day, sacrifice sleep, neglect meals, and skip exercise, the money you earn in the end might not even cover medical expenses. Remember: your body is your only capital. Take care of your capital first, then talk about everything else. ​​​

The human brain constantly generates thoughts and emotions, but many of these thoughts are just "automatic reactions" and are not necessarily true or useful. If a person keeps following these thoughts, they are prone to anxiety, internal conflict, and emotional amplification. Psychology emphasizes a skill: to be aware without being carried away. That is, you can see "what I am thinking, what emotions I have," but not take them as your entire self. When people no longer overly identify with their thoughts and emotions, it becomes easier to view things calmly and objectively, and they are less likely to be influenced by impulses and biases. This state is called "decentering" or "psychological distance" in mindfulness psychology. It does not mean becoming indifferent, but rather: emotions can exist, but you are not controlled by them.

As long as you get used to paying for others, they will think you should always pay. As long as you are used to wrapping things up every time, if any problem arises, others will naturally complain about you.

When you feel like you're overthinking, try thinking in English, and you'll find that you can't overthink as much. ​​​

As an adult, you carry a twenty-year mortgage and spend 200 yuan on a game—which of these is more likely to upset your parents? You have to choose a difficult major in college, or you want to adopt a pet tomorrow—which one makes them more anxious? Your work stress is almost unbearable, or you have to rely on takeout for a whole week—which situation is more serious? But in reality, those who "love" you the most often fail to grasp the real "point." (Maybe they are the ones who can grasp the "point" best; the point is they dare not get involved in high-cost matters but still want to be part of your life.)